Friday, 30 November 2012

Questionnaire about blogging

Hiya lovelies!

I saw a post over at Imperfectly Painted (great nail blog, go see) and Steph had asked and answered some questions about blogger identity. She does 'Talk it out Tuesday' each week to talk about subjects that matter to her and they're always thought-provoking for me. I thought it was an interesting debate and wanted to chip in. Here are her questions:

Who are you as a blogger? Hmm. I'm just a late thirties, glamour- and bargain-obsessed woman who likes to write about make up, life, my health and occasionally clothes. I'm just a normal woman in many respects - I have problem skin, I have wrinkles, I'm ageing, my monobrow is trying to take over the Universe, not just my face. Then there are bits that aren't so 'normal' - I'm fat and I'm disabled. So I'm Mrs Average with a side order of something a bit kooky and mangled! :)

I'm a blogger who blogs for my sanity. I've always had a need in me to write, ever since I could first grab a pen. If I wasn't writing here, I'd definitely be writing about something else, somewhere. The urge is too great not to. So I blog partly for my own good and partly to share with you. I hope that comes across. I LOVE hearing from my readers and always answer back. If I haven't answered a comment, my email notification has failed! Every comment I *know* I've had, I reply to.

What are your goals for your blog? A small, but loyal readership. I think if I had huge numbers I'd feel worried by the responsibility of it, probably down to my anxiety. I like knowing exactly who everyone is when they comment on my blog. You're like the friends who live in my pc! :) Other than that, I'm pretty much a 'take it as it comes' person so I just look forward to writing better, finding more content and interacting with everyone as much as possible. I haven't got a huge disposable income so there's not as much content as I'd like on the blog, but I do my best.

What type of relationship do you want with with your readers? A friendly one! I'm really bubbly and friendly in real life and I hope some of that comes across in my blog. I'm not here to preach or tell granny how to suck eggs, but if I've found something out that might be helpful to someone else, I'll share it gladly, even if it only reaches one person. If there's a delicious bargain to be had I'm keen to shout about it. Also, I sometimes write deep and meaningful stuff to help me process things and also to get across it's OK not to know everything. Sometimes just asking yourselves the questions is enough. It all leads to growth and learning and I think that's good for us all.

Do you want to be more than just a blogger? I don't think so, no. Blogging is my hobby, and that's the beauty of it. If I was being paid, it'd probably suck all the joy out of it. Having have said that though, I am considering writing a book. Many, many people over the years have told me that I have a way with words and should write a book. I'm considering writing my autobiography and I'm considering serialising it on my blog. Am I mad?! I've had a rollercoaster life full of highs and the lowest of lows. I've escaped childhood poverty, had three pretty serious accidents, lost loved ones, lost babies, lost my good health, but gained a husband, lifelong friends and a new appreciation of the simple things in life.

Where do you stand as far as other bloggers blogging on the same topic? Well, there are two ways this can go. There's blatant copying and ripping off of other people's entire blogs wholesale (even down to personal photos!) which I've heard about, and that's just abhorrent. Then there's getting inspiration from a post, just like I did here from Steph and posted this blog with her express permission. I think as long as you credit the person you're inspired by in your post, say how you were inspired, link to the relevant blog and make the blog you've written about it have your voice, then it's OK.

So, fellow bloggers or else blog readers, what do you say about blogging, bloggers and the whole shebang?

I'll tell you a bit about how I read blogs. It's my favourite part of the day. After our tea, hubby makes me a cuppa. I put my feet up and drink my tea while I read blogs for an hour or two. I love it. It's 'me' time. I read nail blogs, make up blogs, fatshion blogs, lifestyle blogs, and some that have a little bit of everything. It's just like reading a couple of dozen mini magazines. The variety of it is the beauty of it, for me. That and drooling over sparkly things, of course!

Over to you!

Should I serialise my autobiography here?

Thursday, 29 November 2012

The 'feeling better' FOTD

Hiya dolls!

As many of you are aware, I'm taking some new medication for depression and anxiety. I'm really going to stop talking about it soon, but not before I talk about the purpose of this make up look. This is the first full face of make up I've done in ooh...I don't know how long.

To those of you who've never had depression, the kind I have is like a heavy, soaking wet blanket. You carry it around with you and soon you forget what it's like to be without it. All you know is from carrying this thing around with you is that everything is harder than it should be. You can still have times of laughter, but even they are somehow muted. Everything is just too much hassle, so the enjoyment you felt from doing things you previously enjoyed just evaporates and you soon find you can't really be bothered to do much of anything at all.

Thankfully, I am over this stage now and slowly starting to feel like I want to do things again. This is major! Now I'm starting to feel better, I realise how bad it was before.

This make up look is no great shakes in the grand scheme of things, but it IS one I wanted to document anyway, as it signifies I DO want to do things again now.  On my eyes I used Jack's Lantern and Strange and Unusual loose eyeshadows from Darling Girl Cosmetics, who are cruelty free.

On my lips I used Crushed Amethyst from VIVO who are cruelty free as far as I am aware.

The rest of what I used:

Darling Girl glitter glue 
Avon Ideal Flawless Invisible Coverage Foundation in porcelain
Avon Supershock Max in black (both bought before I knew Avon test on animals to sell in China)
MUA shade 2 bronzer as contour on cheeks
elf blusher in Glow
GOSH eyeliner in purple
Body Shop brow & liner powder shade 2

What do you use on your hair - dye, henna or are you au naturel?

Thanks for reading.

Wednesday, 28 November 2012

MUA and VIVO make up are made by the same company

Hiya dolls!

I noticed this evening that inexpensive make up brands MUA (Make Up Academy, which has its own website and is also for sale in Superdrug stores in the UK and on the Superdrug website) and VIVO (which has its own website and is also for sale in Tesco stores) come from the same beauty wholesaler. I noticed because I made a VIVO order tonight (I was lured in by the 3 for 2 offer) and also chased up a hugely delayed MUA order.

The paypal names matched up - FB Beauty Ltd. They're a beauty and perfume wholesaler with an address in London (probably for tax purposes) and offices in Cheadle Royal. The Paypal payments I made to both VIVO and MUA go to the same man, Martin Wormser. A quick search of the Companies House website revealed he is director of FB Beauty, who supply make up for people including the make up spin offs for the TV show TOWIE; as well as Accessorize and Look Beauty. *EDIT* they also make Famous Makeup as when I ordered from them my Paypal receipt was from FB Beauty. FB Beauty is part of an American company called Wormser Corp. Wormser Corp are a company who design and make whole ranges of make up and perfumes for brands. Wormser Corp have offices in New Jersey, California, Texas, UK, Germany and Shanghai, according to their website. Their factories are in China.

So far from buying English products, we're actually buying products made in China, with the money going to the US, just so you know. I'm not saying that's a bad thing, but it's nice to know where things come from.

Did you know a lot of different make up brands are made by the same company? Does it bother you?

This is just another reminder for me to find out the provenance of things before I buy.

I don't feel great about people toiling away in Chinese factories, probably for a pittance and in horrid conditions. It raises some uncomfortable questions. I hope these people are getting a fair wage. Do we know enough about where things come from? Are our clothes made in sweatshops or do workers get a fair wage? Are we adding to pollution in these high-volume manufacturing countries?

Playing Devil's Advocate, you could say if everything wasn't made in China, it'd only be somewhere else. What's more important - a bargain or moral/social responsibility? I have all of the questions and none of the answers, I'm afraid. I'm trying to live a kinder life but I'm more confused than ever. I think asking myself uncomfortable questions is good. It's OK for me not to know all the answers. I think the important thing is I still ask them of myself and question what sits right with my own beliefs and morals.

When you can buy a lipstick from MUA for £1 and a lipstick from VIVO for £2, is there a difference in quality or are we just paying for better packaging? Not necessarily. I find the MUA lipsticks to be slightly drying, whereas my favourite VIVO lippies are always in my make up bag as they're so moisturising. When it comes to some things like eyeshadow, the MUA shades are so smooth and pigmented already, you could argue why spend more than £1 for a single or £3-4 for a palette unless something else is the selling point? For instance I really enjoy the sexy animal print Famous Makeup packaging and don't mind paying a bit extra for it, and if they have different colours on offer to MUA or VIVO then I'll happily snap them up. Really, I'm just so glad these affordable make up ranges are all cruelty free.

I don't hold anyone else to account over their beliefs and never would. I believe in agreeing to disagree if no common ground can be found. I believe your opinion is just as valid as mine is, even if we differ. A bargain is always a bargain and times are tough right now. We all make our own decisions and live with them. What sits right with you is really none of my bees' wax, unless of course you want to chip in with a comment.

By the way, if you were wondering if VIVO is tested on animals, I did some research here on the Tesco website (PDF - do CTRL+F 'animal testing' to find the relevant patch of text to see for yourself.) It says: We do not support testing on animals for cosmetic or household products, and do not carry out or commission such tests on our own-brand products or the ingredients they contain. We support the Fund for the Replacement of Animals in Medical Experimentation (FRAME), which seeks to end animal testing.
Thanks for reading.

Monday, 26 November 2012

Let's get Christmas all wrapped up!

Hi loves!

I absolutely LOVE wrapping presents. Love, love, love it!

When my nan was alive (God rest her soul) every Christmas I used to wrap up all her presents for her, except mine of course. It suited me because I'm nosy, so I got to find out what she was giving everyone else! Ha. I'd do all the wrapping and she'd cut off bits of sellotape and pass me bows. I just got all teary recounting that story. I miss her so much. She died the year after Princess Diana, so it'll be 15 years next April. She died on my birthday, bless her. I must look like the bride of Alice Cooper after that little snotfest.

On to the wrap!

I found this wonderful seller Lime Lace on who does these 3 lovely festive papers. All photos belong to Lime Lace. These designs cost £9.99 each for 5 sheets (50x70cm.) All photos can be clicked for larger images.

The Christmas puddings are my favourite.

Dots and Spots also do some lovely wrapping paper. I'm using their paper this Christmas. It's doubled sided, really good thick paper and £1.50 a sheet. There is a discount if you buy more than 3 sheets at a time. They also do a mixed pack of all 3 designs, here which starts at £8.40 for 6 sheets. There are gift tags available here, and festive wrap here, too.

All photos belong to Dots and Spots.

Dots and Spots are well worth a look, especially on a Friday, as they do 50% off a certain product group every week. I got my wrapping paper half price a couple of weeks ago. Keep your eyes peeled for their 50% off deals.

Do you like wrapping presents or do you find it a chore? 

I play Christmas songs while I do my wrapping.

Thanks for reading.

Sunday, 25 November 2012

Models Own Mirrorball collection

Hello pickles!

Here I am with a quick look at the Mirrorball collection by Models Own.

All photos can be clicked to see larger images.

I will have some nail swatches for you next week.

Sorry there have been no make up or outfit posts in what seems like fuh-revver. The honest truth is, my new anti-depressants are kicking the crap out of me. I'm sleeping for about 12 hours a day. I put on make up about once or twice a week, just enough so I don't scare children and animals. I'm dressing for comfort rather than style at the moment. I'd much sooner be happy and tired than depressed and anxious, but I'm hoping things will improve once the days get longer. We have almost another month to go until the shortest day (Dec 21st) and after that the days will get longer. Hopefully a little more sunshine will pull me out of this funk. Being ill for the last week hasn't improved my energy levels. Even though I feel like crap I really need to get back into yoga to make myself feel better. Nail posts are easy when the rest of you looks crap!

Thanks for reading.

Saturday, 24 November 2012

Gingerbread themed Christmas gifts

Hiya lovelies!

I love anything gingerbread themed, both edible and non.

Items in this set are:

1. Tripp tin with lid set from IKEA, £7.
2. Mr & Mrs gingerbread cookie cutters from Amazon, £2.95.
3. Gingerbread man sock in bauble from Boots, £5.
4. Baylis & Harding Gingerbread Man bath and body trio, £4.

There are lots of different gingerbread men sets from Baylis & Harding in Boots, ranging from £4 to £12.

Do you like gingerbread themed gifts?

Thanks for reading!

Friday, 23 November 2012

Models Own Wonderland collection in ACTUAL daylight!

Hi loves!

Shocker - Sun shines in England! Wahoooo!

Since the sun has been out today I decided to paint my nails and take some proper photos of the Models Own Wonderland collection. Given enough daylight I'd take all my photos in the glorious sunshine, but this is the English autumn. This means people are Vitamin D deprived and I'm reliant on flash or high ISO shots instead of good ol' beautiful daylight. You can't beat it. I plan to make myself a lightbox soon to beat the crappy Autumn/Winter light with the new daylight bulbs we bought. Anyhow, onto the photos.

I used 5 different colours to layer over. Thumb to pinky - e.l.f. black, Nails Inc St James, La Femme pink 147, Barry M teal, MAC Rocker.

Thumb to pinky - Blizzard, Jack Frost, Northern Lights, Snowflake, Southern Lights (all by Models Own.)

How do you cope when there's little sun? I find vodka quite nice. Hahaha! ;)

Thanks for reading!

Body Shop gift ideas I love

Hello pickles!

I recently discovered Beauty Sets recently. If you've ever dreamed of making your own magazine, you can totally do it with Beauty Sets. The layout is there for you to make sets like this one:

The products in this set are:

Festive hand cream trio £12 with
  • Hand Cream Cranberry Joy 30ml
  • Hand Cream Vanilla Bliss 30ml
  • Hand CreamGinger Sparkle 30ml
Pudding wash ball £3

Ginger sparkle shower scrub and moisture collection £15 with
  • Ginger Sparkle Shower Gel 250ml
  • Ginger Sparkle Body Butter 50ml
  • Ginger Sparkle Soap 40g
  • Ginger Sparkle Body Scrub 75ml
  • Reusable aluminium tin
Body butter lollipop £15 with
  • Coconut Body Butter 50ml
  • Shea Body Butter 50ml
  • Moringa Body Butter 50ml
  • Strawberry Body Butter 50ml
  • Satsuma Body Butter 50ml

The Body Shop have always got deals on, so check with Google for voucher codes before you buy.

Do you like taking ages looking at possible gift ideas? I love it.

Thanks for reading!

Thursday, 22 November 2012

A recent e.l.f. order

Hello loves!

I made an e.l.f. order recently when they had some freebie or other going on over Halloween. All photos can be clicked to see larger images.

Here we have:

Studio cream eyeliner in Plum Purple 4.7g £3.75
Studio Pressed powder in Porcelain 9g £3.75
Studio Matte lip colour in Rich Red 1.8g £3.75
Studio Eyeliner and Shadow Stick in Green/Moss Eyeliner: 0.24g/ Shadow: 0.86g £3.75
Studio Baked Eyeshadow in Burnt Plum 3.5g £3.75
Studio Baked Eyeshadow in Enchanted 3.5 g £3.75

Burnt Plum and Enchanted are gorgeous pigmented shades I absolutely love. 

 Here are some super quick swatches of the eyeliner, the eyeliner & shadow stick and the matte lip colour.

Things I don't like - the pressed powder. It's chalky and far too dark for me. Never mind, you can't win them all!

Thing I like - the baked eyeshadows are fab, so is the matte red lip colour. I have other colours of the matte lip colours and they last ages. The green eyeliner/shadow has a subtle sparkle which I love. The cream eyeliner is super long lasting - I had to scrub my wrist to get it off after swatching.

Have you bought anything from e.l.f.? If so, what's your favourite?

Thanks for reading!

Wednesday, 21 November 2012

Review: Superdrug Anti-Ageing Moisture Mask

 Hello lovelies!

I hope you're well. I am not so well (still) and my chest infection is giving me stabbing pains in my lungs now. So not fun.

I tried a new face mask out on Sunday and it is FAB! It's the Superdrug Anti-Ageing Moisture Mask (what a tongue twister!) and it has Vitamin E, cranberry, raspberry, blueberry and pseudo collagen to lock in moisture. It isn't a mask that sets hard, you just apply it to your pre-cleansed and dried face and neck for 15 minutes then wash it off with warm water. It smells kind of herbal and fresh. It's not an overbearing smell at all and I liked it. At 15ml there's more than enough product to do your face and neck.

Because of Fibromyalgia and being positively ancient, my skin is so dry. If I forget to moisturise, I get forehead dandruff when I scratch it because my skin is *that* desperately parched. Prior to putting on this mask I'd not taken good care of my skin for a couple of days and was highly dubious it would leave my skin soft and moisturised.

I was wrong.

It made my skin as soft as a baby's bum and totally restored the moisture level. My skin looked 'healed' somehow, like it had taken years off me. I couldn't stop poring over my face in the mirror! My skin looked plump and fresh. Like a tool, I forgot to take a photo of 'after' but trust me when I say if your face is parched, you could do a lot worse than use this face mask.

I have incredibly sensitive skin, and although my skin was slightly red when I took the mask off at first, it wasn't at all sore or irritated and seconds later the redness went away to leave me with a fresh, glowing, healthy look. My skin still looks better than usual, although my forehead dryness has returned (as expected.) I will use this mask weekly to give my skin a bit of a boost. If you're going out to a Christmas party or other special event, this would make an excellent addition to your beauty routine, as it'll make you look fantastic!

It's 99p from Superdrug stores and

10 out of 10 from me!

This product was bought with my own money, as ever.

Do you use face masks?

Thanks for reading!

Tuesday, 20 November 2012

Consumerism, happiness and the bigger picture

Hiya dolls.

This is a little deep and wordy, but here I go. I am full of cold and ever-so-nauseous so this may make no sense at all, and I may well delete it shame-faced in the morning.

Ryan Hurst, (who played Opie) in my favourite TV show Sons of Anarchy retweeted something on Twitter yesterday which was such a truth bomb to me. Here is the picture he retweeted.

Immediately, I thought of my own situation, my own love of spending. Buying things cheers me up, but sometimes I don't even look at the things I've bought for weeks afterwards. The very act of spending cheers me up. I might go as far to say that it's a buzz, a turn-on, an addiction. Admittedly I'm an absolute cheapskate, so the sums of money I spend aren't vast, but I still feel out of control. I think that is key.

I've long hypothesised about the reasons why I have this enormous well of sadness within me which requires regular topping up with things I don't really need. I remember writing a post about it on MySpace about 5 years ago. At the time, I was surprised when people commented on it to tell me they felt the same. Their 'solace' or 'crutch' might have been something else other than spending - cigarettes, booze, sex, drugs, gambling - but people told me they felt a similar black hole within themselves.

I have a few theories about my own situation.

1. I was brought up dirt poor. And I mean dirt poor, so poor we sometimes couldn't eat for days. I hardly ever had new things. Almost everything was second hand or worse. As well as being poor, we were a single parent family, which was quite frowned upon in those days. People talk, and my family's situation was known by everyone at school (all of them - primary, junior and senior schools) and it was a massive stigma to have people know you don't have shit and you don't have a dad in your life. As soon as I could legally leave school I did and went into work as soon as possible. I needed money and I needed not to feel broke. I'm not entirely sure if that feeling has ever left me. I think I subconsciously surround myself with things to try to prove to myself I'm no longer poor.

2. I left home aged 19. I'm not going to bore you with my entire childhood/teenage woes, but essentially I had to get out of my home because I was at risk of violence - both sexual and physical - at the hands of my mother's evil alcoholic boyfriend. Although I moved away with my dad and brother to start a new life, they both went back to our home town after a couple of years and I stayed behind. My entire family is 90 minutes drive away. Of course, it could be a lot worse (with increased distance) but I've never really had a family there when I've needed them because of my youthful desire to escape the life that had thus far blighted me. My escape from shit times ultimately came back to bite me on the arse as I've pretty much had to get by on my jack, aside from periodic visits back home. I'm sure this sense of isolation has a lot to do with my constant need to 'top up' my happiness bank with a seemingly never-ending supply of new things.

3. I've lost two babies. My spending habit has definitely increased since my last ectopic pregnancy. I long to be a mum and I think a certain amount of my emptiness stems from that.

Let me go off topic for a bit to explain a bit more of where I'm coming from in the purchases-don't-always-make-us-happy line of thought. 

Quite a few things have been clarified for me since I've been ill. Sometimes all it takes is someone else's viewpoint on things to start off a whole new thought process. About the time I had to give up work due to ill health (2008) I wrote a post on Facebook saying how useless I felt not being able to work, for being a burden on J, for ruining the dream of us getting a mortgage, etc. (You can see how much I'd bought into the consumer 'dream' - feeling deflated at not being able to saddle myself with 25-30 years of debt!) A guy from America (a friend of a friend I got to know from our mutual love of writing) commented on my Facebook status that day and what he said resonated with me. He said something along these lines: we all work (men and women, regardless of if we have kids) to pay for gadgets, foreign holidays and God knows what else so we don't feel inferior to other people. As well as working hard for the things we need - food, shelter, clothes etc, we work hard for things we don't actually need to be happy. If we have kids we often let other people bring them up in daycare so we can get back to the slog and not only are we often miserable because of this cycle, but our kids can suffer for it in lack of time spent with their parent(s.) He said his wife stays home to look after the kids by mutual agreement, he works, they make do with what they've got and more importantly, they're happy with what they've got. It was a conscious choice to make less money collectively and feel richer for it. Obviously it could equally go the other way with the man staying home, the point is that some things are more important than money. Yes, I said that! He said I shouldn't HAVE to work unless we really need the money, much less beat myself up for being a 'failure' for succumbing to illness, and that we're conditioned to feel our only worth is through working ourselves half to death to buy things we don't really need.

In all the years of my life up to that point I had never considered that there was a choice other than slog fuelled by need + consumerism. It had never occurred to me that even a well person could choose to do less work if they chose, and that was entirely OK, and hell - might even be beneficial to their mental and physical well-being. I had never thought in my entire working life that there was an alternative. I lived to work, I didn't work to live. I don't even know where this overbearing work ethic came from, I just had it. It came to me as easy as breathing. That is the culture in this country. You work all the while you can, and when you can't, you're considered washed up. Sucks put like that, doesn't it?!

Some time after that Facebook comment opened my eyes I read an article about young Dutch women, many of whom choose to work part time in order to have a better quality of life, to be able to bring up children, do housework, read, garden, do volunteer work, or chill on the sofa all day if they so desire. A commenter on the article I've just linked sums it all up by saying "We design our financial needs according to how we want to live our lives." In other words, they decide how much money they need to get by on, then they do as much or as little work they need to achieve that, realising that some things are more important than money. They could work more and have more but they choose not to. Wow. Another group of people who find there are greater riches than money in life. That was another eye opener for me.

I think at the heart of my constant want for sparkly things, and a lot of the problems we face in society as a whole are brought about by us losing sight of what's really important in the grand scheme of things: family, love, more time to be with friends and loved ones, more time to pursue other interests, more time to work on ourselves as people and an increased level of happiness caused by all those things (and more besides). Surely the essential thing at the heart of a life enjoyed is happiness? We all deserve to be happy. Money or things are not the keys to happiness in themselves. In fact our search for them can be directly the cause of our unhappiness if we lose sight of the bigger picture. As the picture at the top of the post says in so many words, no end of things you don't need will ever be enough. Things cannot sate you, not for long, which is why I'm always looking for my next fix. Experiences sate you, your family and friends sate you, and focusing on being a good person makes you feel whole. Your 60" TV can't give you a hug when you feel down, no more than my enormous collection of make up can. And yet I still yearn....

I honestly believe the key to achieving happiness - or a modicum of it - is the ability to throw off the shackles of what we 'should' be doing, what the ad agencies tell us we all need to buy and of measuring success by money and possessions. We need to stop comparing. We need to connect to ourselves and find out what is really important to us. This can be hard to do when social conditioning screams BORN! WORK! DIE! everywhere we turn.

The honest truth is that in the English-speaking world, anything other than total self-annihilation from hard work is frowned upon. It's work for the sake of work and nothing else in many cases, as if the world will implode if you have a Friday afternoon off. I know, I burned out in spectacular fashion after 17 years of hard slog (in the worst jobs imaginable) because I didn't know any other way. Do I have any of the things I worked so hard to buy for all those years? No, only ill health and life experience.

So what now?

I'm a blogger after all, and blogging is almost always about the purchase of sparkly new things, especially beauty/fashion blogging. I'll probably still be showing you things I've bought to cheer myself up, which essentially makes me a hypocrite, I know....but I'm a mindful hyprocrite who will be doing some delving into myself to try to 'heal' myself in other ways. I don't know the answers yet, and don't know if I ever will, but I'm mindful of searching for them.

I am mindful of always wanting. If I spend less time wanting things and I'm sure I'll be happier. In reading blogs, especially beauty and fashion blogs, it's so easy to crave what someone else has. I want to switch the emphasis in my thoughts over to be being glad for what I've already got - a lovely husband, a loving (if barmy) family, a roof over my head, food in the cupboards and clothes on my bones.

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with working like a maniac if you really want that 60" TV and that holiday to The Maldives (or wherever/whatever else) if it makes you really, genuinely happy. Working hard for the things you love is an admirable quality. Treating yourself to nice things and wanting nice things isn't bad in itself. We all deserve treats. I can only talk from my own viewpoint, which is from the position of constantly buying little things to supplement my happiness and feeling out of control because of it. This is why I feel I need to work on myself.

What are your thoughts? Am I talking a load of horse shit or do I have a point? 

Over to you.

Thanks for reading.