I'm not a resolutions girl as such because resolutions tend to be wildly ambitious things, often naively so. These are my aims for the year.
- Do yoga every day, even if it's literally a couple of moves or a couple of minutes. I've had Fibromyalgia for 8 years now and it has got worse year on year, to the point where I can't tolerate any kind of cold temperature at all now. I'm done with stiffening up in the cold and barely having any range of movement so I'm hoping yoga will keep me nice and supple.
- Make the flat more of a home. We've lived here for over 5 years and we haven't decorated the place. We haven't put so much as a shelf or a sheet of wallpaper up. I've always seen it as a waste because with rentals you never know how long you'll stay, but I would like a place where I'm proud to invite people in. Neither James or I are DIY savvy (at all!) but some cosyness we can take with us when we move is a start.
- Say 'No' more. I have the worst habit of talking myself into doing things when I don't want to go/do them or really shouldn't go/do them. My thoughts go like this 'Well, I cancelled the last 3 times and my leg is hanging off by a thread and I have one eye missing, but I guess I should still go!' I need to learn to decide on activities depending on if I CAN do something, rather than if I should. This leads to...
- Put myself first. You may be thinking whoa, but hear me out. The last year taught me that the buck stops with me. If I don't look after myself, how can I be of use to anyone else? People with chronic illness or debilitating conditions need to sort their priorities out or else life falls to pieces. I have to ensure I'm well rested, well fed/watered and OK mentally before I can be a good wife, friend or family member.
- Support the sisterhood. Plus size blogging is a funny ol' game because the limited resources and kudos dished out by the people in a position to dole out said things tend to make for a competitive piranha pit. But in my loooooooong ongoing depression period I examined why I'm miserable about some things, and I realised my brain is just a little bastard who likes to make me miserable for the sake of it. On reflection I don't begrudge awesome women awesome things at all. So from now on I'm going to celebrate all the amazing women in plus size blogging rather than comparing myself to them. This leads me to.....
- Never compare myself to anyone. EVERRRRRRRRRRRRR.
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| I wrote this on Instagram and it's so true for me |
7. Be more of an activist. Call out injustice where I see it, feminist the shit out of 2016, read more about issues that affect people outside my sphere of knowledge - trans issues, issues faced by People of Colour, etc. Check my privilege often and try to be less of a naive, passive douche.
8. Check unfollowers with one eye open. This is a weird one, but it's best for my mental health. I do check for social media unfollowers, for my sins. If people I really respect unfollow me it bums me out for days. So, for the last couple of weeks I've checked unfollowers with one squinty eye so I don't see WHO has unfollowed me. I just hit the unfollow button back because I follow way too many people to make sense of Instagram or Twitter already.
9. Try to keep my mental health on an even keel. Some things like points 1, 3, 4 and 6 will help this, but I'll continue to learn from my dark periods and adjust things to improve happiness.
10. Love more. This needs no explanation.
What are your aims for this year?
Thanks for reading.
Leah xoxo
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